Contents<br/>Prologue ··················································· 7<br/>Recommendations ········································ 12<br/><br/><b>Chapter 01</b><br/><br/>Cultivating the Heart of Husband and Wife<br/>01 Let’s understand your spouse’s childhood ················· 17<br/>02 Let’s read the real inner self with intimacy ·················· 24<br/>03 Enjoy the difference between man and woman ············ 31<br/>04 Always attune your harmony when having a conversation · · 40<br/>05 Read a book together as a couple ·························· 48<br/>06 Discover the 〈Love Language〉 ····························· 54<br/>07 Let’s draw a clear love map ································· 62<br/><br/><b>Chapter 02</b><br/><br/>Cultivating the Heart of Father and Son<br/>01 Live ‘Here and Now’ ········································ 69<br/>02 Help Someone ············································· 78<br/>03 Solve the assignment of the inner self with love ············ 84<br/>04 A competent person learns how to stand on one’s own ····· 93<br/>05 Do not be afraid of a problem and confront it ·············· 98<br/>06 It is good to give and forget ································ 102<br/><br/><b>Chapter 03</b><br/><br/>Cultivating the Heart of Father and Daughter<br/>01 Wait until Critical Mass is filled ······························ 108<br/>02 Make complementing and encouraging a habit ············ 113<br/>03 Have a clear identity ········································ 118<br/>04 Have a self-esteem of happiness ···························· 124<br/>05 Coach yourself (Self-Coaching) ······························· 130<br/>06 Learn diligently and give it to others ························ 135<br/><br/><b>Chapter 04</b><br/><br/>Cultivating the Heart of Mother and Son<br/>01 Fill up the love tank ········································ 140<br/>02 Rise up to the level of self-actualization ····················· 149<br/>03 Change your mindset to be absolutely positive ············· 154<br/>04 Open the future world with emotional intelligence ········· 159<br/>05 Enjoy the gift given by nature ······························ 163<br/>06 Happiness in something small is great happiness ··········· 169<br/>07 If you think while running, your thought also races with you ··· 174<br/><br/><b>Chapter 05</b><br/><br/>Cultivating the Heart of Mother and Daughter<br/>01 Train yourself with heart-pounding passion ················ 182<br/>02 Find the hot button in your inner self ······················· 187<br/>03 Make a personal brand with your own unique color ········ 194<br/>04 Refine yourself like a diamond ······························ 199<br/>05 Always come up with new recipes ·························· 206<br/>06 Make as many memories as possible ······················· 214<br/><br/><b>Chapter 06</b><br/><br/>Cultivating My Heart How to Tend the Garden of your Inner Self<br/>01 Write as if you are gardening day by day ···················· 224<br/>02 Know people and the world by reading 10,000 books ······ 230<br/>03 Be thankful with your heart and body ······················ 236<br/>04 Remember the people who have helped you up to now ···· 244<br/>05 Forget your age and always start anew ····················· 249<br/>06 Think of yourself as a star ··································· 256<br/>07 Live a rainbow life ·········································· 265<br/><br/>Epilogue ·················································· 271<br/>Appendix<br/>5 ways to enjoy a festive life<br/><br/>01 Be your one and only self in the world ······················ 275<br/>02 Dream a dream of stars (☆) ································· 277<br/>03 Love passionately ·········································· 279<br/>04 Go on a trip that makes your heart flutter ··················· 280<br/>05 Write about the garden of your inner self ··················· 282<br/><br/>Communication Style Inventory ······················· 284<br/>Self-Esteem Inventory (SEI) ····························· 287

This books is about happiness skills that we usually ignore unconsciously. The happiness expert Lee Kyung-chae(Hanna) is the happiest person in this society. She has a very happy family, children and grandchild. She has a very romantic husband who is very happy and wise. She also builds a good relationship with her husband. They love each other so much. They respect other person's needs and desires. They communicate well. This book will be the textbook for the people who want to have that kind of happy relationship. <br/><br/> Rome is not built one day. Hanna and her family did a lot of work to improve their relationship. When you read this book you will be happy in a moment. The writer's energy and devotion to make readers be happy now are written in all of the text. Lee Kyung-chae is learning and helping lots of people who are in trouble with family matters and personal issues. She provides some of the solutions to live happily in this hard and uncertain times. These days Korean divorce rate is increasing. Even though people are abundant these days, they are not quite satisfied. Happiness is not established by comparison, anger, frustration, fear and jealousy. Whatever arises, accept that. That is the beginning point of happiness. Happiness is already within you. You can pull it out and use it now. <br/><br/><b>Amazon Reader Ben's Review </b><br/><br/>I was fortunate to receive a copy of Lee Kyung-Chae's new book, ‘How to Use Happiness’. It is a thorough guide to improving the reader’s happiness, by improving and sustaining interpersonal relationships using better communication techniques. Each chapter is dedicated to familial relationships; husband-wife, and parent-child, breaking out parent-child from the perspective of both parents to both sons and daughters. The chapters give examples and explain how the different relationships influence happiness and how the reader can improve their relationships by better communication in order to increase happiness. <br/><br/>Each chapter closes with two questions for the reader to consider and answer to expand self-understanding. The final chapters discuss using the earlier lessons to improve communication outside the family, and offer guidance on improving the reader’s self by expanded reading and writing, arguing that the most complete route to understanding a subject is by reading, then writing about it. This is a detailed book, but written in an easy to read, almost conversational style, and will help the reader who internalizes these lessons to improve relationships and happiness.

“Guide for Recovery and Healing of Relationships” Ministers who lead the way in lifting families are broadly classified into theorists and doers. Lee Kyung-chae(Hanna), the author of this book, has a rich clinical experience in transforming couples. But she also wrote a book I want to keep, which is good enough to be used as a textbook equipped with good theory. The author, Hanna Lee, was a student who studied diligently ever since the days when I lectured as a professor at the Clinical Pastoral Research Institute after acquiring a doctor’s degree in the US and coming back to Korea 29 years ago. She is also my pupil who is constantly exerting efforts in counseling and family ministry up to now as Healing & Counseling Institute was opened afterwards.

A psychologist claimed that the interest of the modern Christian is summed up into spirituality, personality type, inner healing, and happy family life through relationships. This book deals with these topics as well as relationships such as marital relations, parents and children, and adolescents, and is good enough to be used as a guide for recovery and healing. I have no doubt that the author’s ministry will greatly contribute to making Korea a happy country and hence gladly recommend this book.
- Dr. Jeong Tae-gi (President of Healing & Counseling Graduate University)

Recommendation 2“Beautiful like a garden with a beautiful fragrance” I don’t read a lot of books from our country. Even if I read them, I just have a taste of it for several minutes with speed reading. But then, once in a while when I get a feel that it is not an ordinary book, I read it intensively. Lee Kyung-chae(Hanna)’s “Life Recipe” had a different atmosphere from the very beginning. Since you can know the taste of beef only when you chew it well, Hanna’s writing taste better the more you read it. I met Hanna through the season edition of “Christian Literature Tree” I run. Even though she started her career as an essayist, she challenged herself once again to write children’s books which is a new genre for her and was recognized as a children’s book writer. The career history of the author is impressive. Especially, her being recognized as a psychotherapist to many people through psychology research is impressive, and her taking graduate school course at United Graduate School of Theology is equally impressive.

In fact, writing is similar to a believer confessing one’s sins to a priest because you have to pour out everything from inside of you. The only difference is that since a confession is performed secretly with a priest, one’s wrongdoing is not known publicly, but writing is a confession poured out to everyone. So there are no secrets. Even if you use somebody else’s writing without permission, a plagiarism dispute breaks out. Hanna’s book, “Recipe for a Happy Family” is a piece of writing where the author poured out everything such as the life she has been living, one’s studies, and literature. Normally, if you look at the vomit of a drunk person, it is smelly and disgusting, but this book is a book you want to keep close to you every day because it gives you a feel of taking a walk with a lover since it is beautiful like a garden with a beautiful fragrance.

Hanna says happiness is not something far away beyond a mountain but something inside and around us by plainly expressing that happiness is getting along with people closest to you. So she enlightens us on how to get along with people close to you. Especially, she makes the reader think specifically with two points to think about at the end of each chapter. In summary, Hanna’s writing is a confession as well as a research book written with ‘the attitude of grinding an axe to make a needle’ as she said in the conclusion. I want to compliment her on writing the book with an attitude of researching plainly like a painting ‘a self-portrait’ of her own face. I hope this book is published soon so I can keep it close to me.
- Shin Seong-jong (Pastor, CEO of Christian Literature Tree)